I have never been a fan of the big old houses. My dream would be for a contemporary rambling ranch with huge closets. But the house above was spacious and gracious. with wood floors, high ceilings, fresh paint, newer windows and great outdoor spaces. More importantly, the house was home to our daughter and son-in-law--and only a few blocks distant.
What happens when you finally acquire a large house and garage? You begin to accumulate!
And then what happens when you decide to move to New York City and all you can afford is a one bedroom apartment???
Yesterday the movers parked in the street on the upper east side of Manhattan, automatically received a ticket from the city, and proceeded to carry in all their earthly possessions (except for a few boxes at my house). I called it
downsize shock when they messaged me a photo of the chaos.
Three favorite possessions which were packed by the movers were broken--a small glass-top table, a great new lamp and the foot of the credenza purchased the day before the moving van came! Hopefully insurance will help to replace or fix these items.
I have received things in bits and dribbles, starting with a round teak table, gifted to us long ago by some Chicago area friends, and returned when the Christmas tree was set up.
And then the last few days, I began to haul and receive small torrents of stuff--even bags of trash, which they really couldn't leave for the new owners. City bags are no longer readily available.
And lastly, they left their car, which will be my car now--a Subaru Forester.
Moving is always chaotic, but they got it done. I helped out here and there, but I let them struggle with the bulk of the downsizing. They had last lunch and dinner dates booked up solid that last week and I was the one who was stressing about getting everything packed.
Moving has always been stressful for me. I never had any help, often working around small children's needs. So I projected some of that stress on them from time to time. But I was also helpful!
The day before the move, we packed both our hatchbacks with seats down, transporting a three-piece set to a warehouse on the northwest side where it would be prepared for a consignment sale. I took a photo of the largest piece on its way to the third floor on an elevator:
Before we left the warehouse, M had purchased a replacement, NYC-apartment-sized credenza.
I will not say too much about the emotional impact of the move, but I will catalogue a few more of the material things that were incorporated
back into our household.
Some things were easy. Oh yes--the stockpot--easy enough to stack with the pans. My hand-held blender--I didn't even miss it! A pillow or two. A borrowed Woolrich blanket. A lamp which we immediately put to use on a re-purposed TV stand by the husband's big recliner. I now have a real wooden rolling pin.
The cans of beans and tomatoes can always be donated if we don't eat them. The beer and bourbon will be drunk over time, to be sure. The laundry products, including April Fresh Downy and OxiClean, were welcome, as I am excessive in the laundry area of my basement and life.
A juicer that I don't know how to use, previously gifted to them.
A beautiful wreath gifted to them. Plenty of room yet (somewhere!) in the basement.
Wine glasses saved for R. A globe for E. A vacuum?
Their golf clubs and shoes. Golf here next summer?
An allen wrench set. So that's where it was!
3 lovely martini glasses. For me and my two drinking buddies!
An over-sized beach towel.
The beautiful guitar I bought for the husband which he no longer plays.
Lots of art experiments, and some Marushkas (w/umlaut u) which we both collected for awhile.
By mistake, a bag of trash was brought into the house--with 30 single socks! What happened to all those mates??
The list is long...
The last thing I did before mopping my way out of the kitchen and turning off the lights was to take a new flashlight from my purse and shine it under a radiator. I found the nail I had dropped there a few days before, hiding there among all the dust bunnies. I ignored the dust. (We needed to leave a few places for the eager new homeowners to clean!)
I put the tiny nail back in its hole, a small effort that somehow made me me feel better. It had pulled out when I removed the art from the wall above.
I had room for one piece of M's art on my first floor--a simple painting created in her early years--which apparently are now history, along with the donated easel--also gifted. Certainly there is no room for an art studio in a one-bedroom!
She begged for this vanity, but in the end didn't take it...the teak tray was also returned...
An old family quote goes something like this: There is always a little piece in the corner.
A tiny nail, a bit of dust--or a small corner of sadness...
They are off on a new adventure. I wish them well. The chaos will subside and life will return to a comfortable rhythm, with new experiences and friends to fill the not-so-tiny holes left in our hearts.
We finished in time to eat a traditional dinner together. I had a Butterball turkey breast in the crock pot, boiled new potatoes, a green bean casserole, broccoli with cheese, rich gravy and French bread.
And then I shared with them my exciting new tiramisu discovery (see next post) and even tasted a newly brewed tiramisu stout which M and I mixed with coffee ice cream for a quite delicious drink!
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| The borrowed tulip mirror behind the beer is also back in place! |